I am writing this article because so many of my clients have mentioned recently that they are seeking tools to deal with anger in healthy and constructive ways. With each client, I shared the concept of a ‘rant letter’ I came up with many years ago that has worked miraculously for so many women I’ve worked with. And after sharing it so much lately, I realized I have never officially put it into writing and shared it with you, my dear readers. So I am sharing this with you in the hopes that you will find it a useful and life-changing tool to work with anger when it arises and enjoy some really positive outcomes as a result. One thing […]
A seasoned psychotherapist shares helpful tips on how to stop doing things you don’t want to do because you’re afraid to say “no”.
A therapist offers hope in troubling times and tools for diminishing fear and hatred and replacing it with compassion, peace, and love.
Following the US presidential election before the holidays, I did a lot of musing about narcissists. So did many other therapists by the looks of it. I’ve written before on this topic, but I feel it has an altogether heavier meaning now that a full-fledged narcissist is running our neighbouring country. I find this deeply troubling, and I know I am amongst a large group of people who are rightfully concerned as well. Since I am not a political expert, I shall stick with what I do best- helping people manage and surmount difficulties in their lives. For many of my clients, this includes dealing with narcissists. From where I sit in my therapy chair day after day listening to […]
Okay sisters, I had to do my duty and write this article for you because we’ve just entered into another New Year. And with each New Year we embrace, we often set ourselves up for failure by committing ourselves to a bunch of miserable “resolutions” for the upcoming year. One of these is almost always: LOSE WEIGHT by going on a diet Now I don’t want to imply that losing a bit of extra weight is a bad thing, because often, it’s a good idea and makes us feel better physically and emotionally. It’s just the way we go about losing weight that concerns me. In fact, I wrote an entire book on it: It’s Not About the Food: A […]
In my last blog post entitled “A Positive Change in the Change Room”, I mentioned a colleague of mine with whom I’ve reconnected with since moving to Victoria, BC named Lisa Polinsky, ND who works at Sage Naturopathic Clinic in Victoria. At lunch one day, Lisa and I were discussing the article I wrote on my personal journey with perimenopause, and she started telling me how she treats perimenopause from a naturopathic perspective and I found it fascinating. I instantly thought, “My readers need to hear what this wise woman has to say about this very important topic”. I smiled sweetly at Lisa and asked her if she’d put everything she just said to me in writing so I could […]
As many of you know, I recently moved to what I believe is the greatest city in Canada- Victoria, BC on Vancouver Island. Although it hasn’t exactly been a seamless nor a smooth transition, I know for certain that it was the right move that I absolutely had to make. Two of the best surprises of moving here has been reconnecting with two of my collegial buddies from over a decade ago who took part in a women’s empowerment newsletter I created in Vancouver when I first opened my private practice. One of them is the fabulous Dr. Lisa Polinsky from Sage Naturopathic Clinic. To my great delight, she moved to Victoria and started the second Sage Clinic about five […]
Dear Goddess of Perimenopause, I sincerely apologize for scoffing at your existence when I was in my twenties and rolled my eyes every time my mother (who came head-to-head with you at that time) complained about the symptoms you gave her. What can I say? I was young and obnoxiously righteous about how I was ‘leading a healthy lifestyle’ so I would never have ‘those problems’ when I was in my 40’s. Let’s just say I now see the error of my ways and Goddess of Perimenopause, I humbly sit crumpled at your feet asking that you forgive me for not getting the exact nature of your power in my younger years. And I am here to say that you- […]
I am mostly a positive, upbeat person who smiles at everyone she sees throughout the course of a day. But there are times when I am neither up nor down; but just downright CRABBY and frustrated and irritated with seemingly everything around me. Over my 45 years on this earth, I have finally learned that it’s much more productive to just allow myself to be crabby and ride it through than to deny it and fake appearing chipper to the outside world. As a therapist, I feel that it is my duty to empower and uplift women and to encourage them to become all they dream of being. And I truly believe that us gals cannot be fully empowered and […]
Two weeks ago, I moved into my new house in Victoria, B.C. I thought that because I had been living in Victoria for almost three months already, the transition would be easy- not in the slightest. According to a UK Poll, buying a house is more stressful than bankruptcy, divorce and even the death of a loved-one. Reading this provided some temporary comfort because I not only bought a house- I also sold four other properties all within the span of one month! We sold our house in the Comox Valley, as well as both of our commercial offices there, and our getaway condo here in Victoria. We also had to sell a lot of furniture and give away a […]