It seems we've hit the cooler weather with grey skies that often keeps us hiding indoors wrapped in a blanket by the fireplace. It is during these months that my husband and I turn to playing board games when we cannot enjoy walking outside much or riding our bikes, let alone sunbathing. I often fantasize … [Read more...] about New Quiz Game: Know Your Narcissist
Confession: I’m a self-help book junkie. One title that many of my clients refer to time and time again is The Five Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts by Dr. Gary Chapman. I would nod my head sagely as clients told me what their ‘primary love language’ was and think to myself, “What exactly are … [Read more...] about How Do I Love Thee? There Are Five Ways
If you're my client, you definitely know that I am a huge fan of Tara Brach and have most likely urged you to read her books, listen to her podcast and practise the life-changing RAIN meditation. In this article, I want to introduce you to a concept she calls "the Trance of Unworthiness" which I believe … [Read more...] about Practising Self-Acceptance
I was in London, England visiting my relatives a number of years ago and walked to Camden Market which was close to my granny's home. In one of the kiosks, something caught my eye. Oddly enough, it was a plain tea towel. I'm not one to get excited by tea towels by any stretch, but this one had something … [Read more...] about Choosing the Right Partner
I was recently in session with a highly anxious client who kept saying "What if..." such and such were to happen? As she came up with increasingly scary imagined scenarios, I could sense her anxiety skyrocketing. That's when I decided I had to 'peel her off the ceiling' and work with her to calm herself down. … [Read more...] about Turn WHAT IF into WHAT IS
A topic that comes up regularly with my clients in their twenties and thirties is examining parenthood. I sense that people are being incredibly mindful about whether or not to bring children into the world. This has been especially evident during COVID, combined with a terrifying political climate, and … [Read more...] about To Parent or Not to Parent?
This is a topic very near and dear to my heart. And based on how often it comes up in therapy sessions, I thought you might find it useful to have a primer on how to deal with emotional vampires (now referred to as EVs throughout the rest of this article). To test the waters for this piece, I did a Google … [Read more...] about How to Protect Yourself from Emotional Vampires
As many of you know, I am an anxious person and always have been. Such is often the fate of Highly Sensitive People (or HSPs). I'm always looking to find new and effective tools to both reduce my own anxiety and to pass onto my anxious clients. I've written about this topic previously and you can check them … [Read more...] about Rewire Your Brain From Anxious to Calm with These Exercises