Question: How do I explain to my (young adult) children that their grandmother has an extreme Narcissistic Personality Disorder? When they were younger I limited exposure and taught them to just go along, so they still had both my parents in their life. Their grandfather is a gentle, loving man but he will … [Read more...] about Ask Esther…Personality Disorders
Question: I have a cousin, 4 years older than I am, who lives alone, out of town, and both her parents are deceased. She has physical disabilities, as well as being treated for mental issues, due to her brain problems at birth. I heard from my parents that her mother (my aunt) had problems as well, so they … [Read more...] about Ask Esther…Setting Boundaries
I would like to dedicate this week’s ezine to my mother, Marion Kane. My mum is 67 year old and lives in Toronto where she continues to write and blog about food. To say that we have had a harmonious and easy relationship would be a lie so I won’t bother pretending. My mother and I are very different … [Read more...] about My Mum and her mum
Since Mother’s Day happens this month, I would like to dedicate the first two of this month’s ezines to the mothers in my family. This week, I’ll start with the Matriarch of my family, my 91-year-old grandmother, Ruth Schachter who lives in London, England. For the past fifteen years or so, I have managed to … [Read more...] about The Reluctant Matriarch
This month’s “Ask Esther” question comes from a client of mine in her mid-twenties who has come to realize that her mother has Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). I am not going to go over the signs and symptoms of BPD in this short article. However, if you want to learn more about BPD in general, click … [Read more...] about Ask Esther…Dealing with a Borderline Mother
Even before I became a therapist, I was a self-help book junkie. I can remember reading countless self-help books when I was as young as fourteen in my quest to understand my suffering and to find a way to heal. Now I’ve written three self-help books myself and am delighted to hear from clients and readers … [Read more...] about Esther’s Recommended Reading: Will I Ever Be Good Enough?
I recently finished reading John by Cynthia Lennon and learned a lot I didn’t know about my favourite Beatle; most of which was perturbing to say the least. As a child, I was in love with the Beatles and my parents had every record they ever produced and I would play them over and over again after school … [Read more...] about Esther’s Recommended Reading: Cynthia Lennon’s “John”
There is one thing that pops up every day in my practise- something upsetting that happened on Facebook (here-on-in referred to as FB). Personally, I despise FB. I have tried it in earnest three times since its first appearance and each time gotten completely irritated and fed-up with the whole thing and … [Read more...] about When Facebook Gets Tricky