If you're my client, you definitely know that I am a huge fan of Tara Brach and have most likely urged you to read her books, listen to her podcast and practise the life-changing RAIN meditation. In this article, I want to introduce you to a concept she calls "the Trance of Unworthiness" which I believe … [Read more...] about Practising Self-Acceptance
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Choosing the Right Partner
I was in London, England visiting my relatives a number of years ago and walked to Camden Market which was close to my granny's home. In one of the kiosks, something caught my eye. Oddly enough, it was a plain tea towel. I'm not one to get excited by tea towels by any stretch, but this one had something … [Read more...] about Choosing the Right Partner
Turn WHAT IF into WHAT IS
I was recently in session with a highly anxious client who kept saying "What if..." such and such were to happen? As she came up with increasingly scary imagined scenarios, I could sense her anxiety skyrocketing. That's when I decided I had to 'peel her off the ceiling' and work with her to calm herself down. … [Read more...] about Turn WHAT IF into WHAT IS
How Do I Decide on Parenthood?
A topic that comes up regularly with my clients in their twenties and thirties is examining parenthood. I sense that people are being incredibly mindful about whether or not to bring children into the world. This has been especially evident during COVID, combined with a terrifying political climate, and … [Read more...] about How Do I Decide on Parenthood?
How to Protect Yourself from Emotional Vampires
What is an Emotional Vampire? This is a topic very near and dear to my heart. And based on how often it comes up in therapy sessions, I thought you might find it useful to have a primer on how to deal with emotional vampires (now referred to as EVs throughout the rest of this article). To test the waters … [Read more...] about How to Protect Yourself from Emotional Vampires
Rewire Your Brain From Anxious to Calm with These Exercises
As many of you know, I am an anxious person and always have been. Such is often the fate of Highly Sensitive People (or HSPs). I'm always looking to find new and effective tools to both reduce my own anxiety and to pass onto my anxious clients. I've written about this topic previously and you can check them … [Read more...] about Rewire Your Brain From Anxious to Calm with These Exercises
Introversion/Extroversion Takes on the “New Normal” Ahead
The photo above shows a happy and relaxed couple- me and my dear husband on a cruise just before the pandemic hit in 2020. Sadly, we complained ad nauseam about what we didn't like about the cruise when we visited my parents right afterwards. Little did we know that within two weeks, we would not be able to … [Read more...] about Introversion/Extroversion Takes on the “New Normal” Ahead
Are you a Moderator or an Abstainer?
I work a lot with addictions in my therapy practise- mostly to food but also other substances like alcohol and other drugs. With all of these addictions, my clients almost always tell me that they want to learn to 'use' (fill in your particular substance-of-choice here) "in moderation someday". Some are … [Read more...] about Are you a Moderator or an Abstainer?