I am writing this article because so many of my clients have mentioned recently that they are seeking tools to deal with anger in healthy and constructive ways. With each client, I shared the concept of a ‘rant letter’ I came up with many years ago that has worked miraculously for so many women I’ve worked with. And after sharing it so much lately, I realized I have never officially put it into writing and shared it with you, my dear readers. So I am sharing this with you in the hopes that you will find it a useful and life-changing tool to work with anger when it arises and enjoy some really positive outcomes as a result. One thing […]
A seasoned psychotherapist shares helpful tips on how to stop doing things you don’t want to do because you’re afraid to say “no”.
A therapist offers hope in troubling times and tools for diminishing fear and hatred and replacing it with compassion, peace, and love.
Following the US presidential election before the holidays, I did a lot of musing about narcissists. So did many other therapists by the looks of it. I’ve written before on this topic, but I feel it has an altogether heavier meaning now that a full-fledged narcissist is running our neighbouring country. I find this deeply troubling, and I know I am amongst a large group of people who are rightfully concerned as well. Since I am not a political expert, I shall stick with what I do best- helping people manage and surmount difficulties in their lives. For many of my clients, this includes dealing with narcissists. From where I sit in my therapy chair day after day listening to […]
Dear Goddess of Perimenopause, I sincerely apologize for scoffing at your existence when I was in my twenties and rolled my eyes every time my mother (who came head-to-head with you at that time) complained about the symptoms you gave her. What can I say? I was young and obnoxiously righteous about how I was ‘leading a healthy lifestyle’ so I would never have ‘those problems’ when I was in my 40’s. Let’s just say I now see the error of my ways and Goddess of Perimenopause, I humbly sit crumpled at your feet asking that you forgive me for not getting the exact nature of your power in my younger years. And I am here to say that you- […]
I am mostly a positive, upbeat person who smiles at everyone she sees throughout the course of a day. But there are times when I am neither up nor down; but just downright CRABBY and frustrated and irritated with seemingly everything around me. Over my 45 years on this earth, I have finally learned that it’s much more productive to just allow myself to be crabby and ride it through than to deny it and fake appearing chipper to the outside world. As a therapist, I feel that it is my duty to empower and uplift women and to encourage them to become all they dream of being. And I truly believe that us gals cannot be fully empowered and […]
Two weeks ago, I moved into my new house in Victoria, B.C. I thought that because I had been living in Victoria for almost three months already, the transition would be easy- not in the slightest. According to a UK Poll, buying a house is more stressful than bankruptcy, divorce and even the death of a loved-one. Reading this provided some temporary comfort because I not only bought a house- I also sold four other properties all within the span of one month! We sold our house in the Comox Valley, as well as both of our commercial offices there, and our getaway condo here in Victoria. We also had to sell a lot of furniture and give away a […]
It’s been a very busy summer my end. Since moving to Victoria, BC this spring, I’ve been spending lots of time meeting other healthcare professionals to talk about what I do for a living- empower women to become all that they dream of being. One topic that always comes up is eating disorders and women’s problematic relationship with food and their bodies. Many of these health professionals have asked me to come up with a handout or article on how to help someone with an eating disorder, as well as tips for preventing eating disorders in our youth. So here it is… How Do I Help Someone with an Eating Disorder? The first section is adapted from The National Eating Disorder Information Centre […]
Well dear readers, I am delighted to tell you all that I am now living and working in beautiful Victoria, BC on Vancouver Island! This gorgeous seaside city on Canada’s West Coast is the capital of British Columbia and one of the most beautiful places on earth. My dear hubby and I decided that after almost thirteen years of small-town island life in the beautiful Comox Valley, BC, it was time for a change. After living part-time in Victoria for the past year, we came to the conclusion that we are, at the core, city people and are much happier and healthier when we’re plunked into the middle of the hustle and bustle of city life. And we couldn’t have […]
I say it to my clients on a regular basis when they are trying to find love in all the wrong places. I thought it would make the basis for a good article so I will expand upon it here. Hopefully, you will recognize where you are ‘going to the hardware store for bread’, the reasons why you keep doing that, and then lastly, will gather some new tools for going straight to the ‘emotional bakery’ when it’s ‘bread’ you’re needing. Let me give you an example of how this works: A client of mine (let’s call her Sue) has a really difficult relationship with her mother. Sue is quiet, introverted and soft-spoken and extremely thoughtful. Her mother, on the […]