Don't Go to the Hardware Store for Bread Think this saying comes from AA: A number of years ago I began attending a 12 Step recovery program for people affected by someone else’s addiction. In that program I learned so many new ways of seeing the world and how to live life differently. This new healthy … [Read more...] about How to Find Emotionally-Available People
What is Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT)? I like this overview of Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) from verywellmind.com: Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT)is a type of psychotherapeutic treatment that helps people learn how to identify and change the destructive or disturbing thought patterns that … [Read more...] about What is Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) and How Can it Help me?
My clients love to diagnose themselves as do most of us. For a funny treatise on this, please read this article: https://www.estherkane.com/what-you-get-when-you-mix-hypochondria-with-technology-googlechondria/ Recently, a client of mine self-diagnosed herself with something she called, "Hurry Sickness". … [Read more...] about The New Diagnosis for all of us- “Hurry Sickness”
As I sit down to write this, I am feeling CRABBY. As you can see from the photo above of me at age three, I have never been very skilled at hiding my emotions. This was unpopular with many of the adults in my life when I was a child who kept trying to 'cheer me up' or convince me that I would rather be … [Read more...] about In a Foul Mood? Embrace Your Inner Crab
“I am not what happened to me. I am what I choose to become.” - Carl Jung In the therapy community and in general circles, there is a lot of talk about trauma and Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). It seems to me that these days, especially after two years of COVID, extreme political polarization and an … [Read more...] about Post Traumatic Growth
I was working with a male client recently who has a very difficult in-law to contend with. I kept reminding him that her behaviour towards him wasn't personal which he found helpful. He shared an acronym with me he had learned about in a business seminar called QTIP which stands for: QUIT TAKING IT … [Read more...] about QTIP- Quit Taking It Personally
My New Formula for Becoming Happier My husband and I own an old house which was built in 1910 (see photo on right). When we bought it over five years ago, we had extensive renovations done including new light fixtures. We bought what we thought were the appropriate bulbs with the right wattage and suffered … [Read more...] about How Can I Make Myself Feel Happier?
What is an Emotional Vampire? Many of my clients are members of the Canadian Armed Forces and one of them shared with me a well-known saying in the military which I love: Two percent of people take up ninety percent of your time. I believe she was referring to "emotional vampires"- a small minority of … [Read more...] about How to Protect Yourself from Emotional Vampires