Signs that the person you’re dating might look good on paper but that might not be good for you since they have a hidden downside:
1. What looks “good on paper”: He’s really good-looking
The hidden downside: He’s so good-looking that a lot of other women want him too and he thrives on the attention he gets.
What’s really good for you: A guy you’re attracted to but doesn’t remind every woman of Brad Pitt when they look at him.
2. What looks “good on paper”: He’s charming in social situations and women flock to him.
The hidden downside: He might be a “player” who sleeps with multiple women at the same time who uses his well-learned charm to woo them and get what he wants.
What’s really good for you: A guy who is genuinely sweet and likable, but who is genuine in public and in private and doesn’t play games with women.
3. What looks “good on paper”: He earns a lot of money.
The hidden downside: He might use money to ‘buy’ your affections and not have much more to offer than fancy dinner and jewellery.
What’s really good for you: A guy who works hard and earns a living but doesn’t make buying things the focus of his or your life together.
4. What looks “good on paper”: He makes you feel like you are the most beautiful, special and incredible woman in the world.
The hidden downside: This may be an initial ploy to snag you and get you into bed, but it may wear off quickly. It takes time to know if this is really genuine or is a ‘hook’.
What’s really good for you: Someone who loves and appreciates you and brings out the best in you, without making you feel like you’re on a cocaine-ride (there a big difference!)
5. What looks “good on paper”: He’s exciting and adventurous and gets you to try new things
The hidden downside: You may be too different to sustain a long and meaningful relationship. Opposites do attract, but that doesn’t always mean they stay together (research shows they don’t).
What’s really good for you: Someone more like you than unlike you in personality who you really mesh with.
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