Hello Dear Readers,
This ‘swimsuit issue’ will look a whole lot different than Sports Illustrated and I say it’s about time. Those things really piss me off and I’m guessing they don’t make you happy either. Here are some sobering facts: Over 24 million people suffer from some form of an eating disorders, and the root of these problems are often linked to rampant advertising that portray skinny, overly-bronzed, hyper-sexualized women as the ideal woman. A study found that 3 minutes spent looking at a fashion magazine caused 70% of women to feel depressed, guilty, and shameful.
Sources: http://www.anad.org & http://www.bradley.edu/thebodyproject/
Which brings me to a funny but hopefully helpful tale:
It’s June and I’m in sunny Osoyoos for the entire month to escape seasonal allergies. While I’m happy to report that I successfully escaped about 80% of my usual symptoms in June and played gloriously outside; I am sad to report that I did not manage to escape severe body image issues which nearly ruined my otherwise great time. In retrospect, I think there were a few contributing factors.
Firstly, this was my first opportunity this year to don summer clothing and I’m guessing that I don’t have to tell you how difficult it is to switch to sleeveless tops and shorts after hiding out in long sleeves and pants all winter. Seeing that much flesh reflected back to oneself can be hard on the self-esteem if you don’t happen to be 100% confident and comfortable in what you see in the mirror.
Secondly, the lighting in both bathrooms in the condo we rented was MUCH BRIGHTER- and thus, way more unflattering in my humble opinion- than my dimmer-switched haven bathroom back home. And while I nearly offed myself trying to climb up onto the counters in a valiant attempt to remove two out of the three screamingly bright bulbs, I could not find a way to remove them no matter how much I twisted or turned or cursed.
Thirdly, (and I think this is where you might want to listen up girlfriends), I brought one bathing suit with me and it was a $20 Costco special that did nothing to flatter my body. It flattened my boobs, emphasized my midsection, and was hideous in the back. Now I have come a long way in my attempts to accept and love my body, but this bathing suit pushed me beyond my human capacity to do so.
So here’s the lesson for me (and perhaps all of us):
SPEND THE MONEY ON THE NICEST, MOST FLATTERING BATHING SUIT YOU CAN FIND AND ENJOY HOW YOU LOOK AND FEEL IN IT.
There is a happy ending to this dismal tale. After wearing that bloody miserable bathing suit three times out in public and feeling awful, I decided to go to a fancy swimwear store in town and pay whatever it cost to find a bathing suit that looked good and felt good. I ended up buying two! I paid a small fortune but it was worth every penny! Guess what? They make gorgeous, sexy bathing suits for women with curves! To my amazement, I learned that they actually have ones with underwire bras inside that allowed me to show off one of my best assets with flair and dignity. And bless the designers of the tankini and bottoms that go right up to the waist!
I strutted around that swimming pool like I was Marilyn Monroe incarnated and I felt fabulous! Curves and all! I dare each of you to take a risk this summer to create your own swimsuit success. And even better, write it down and email it to me so I can share it with my readers! Here’s to a fabulous fun summer in the sun with women across the world loving the skin they’re in (and men too!)