I just wanted to remind you dear readers that while it’s important to give to others, it’s also wonderful and necessary to receive good stuff from the people in our lives. I find that a lot of us women give and give to others and get very little in return. Now sometimes this is totally appropriate- raising children comes to mind. However, even then, from what I hear, kids give parents a whole lot just by being themselves and countless women tell me how much joy they receive from parenting. But I’m not talking about children here- I’m talking about relationships between two grown adults.
I have heard some shocking stories of late from clients regarding one-way-street relationships that have led me to this conclusion: SOME PEOPLE HAVE AN AWFUL LOT TO TAKE. The examples are different in each case (ranging from always making meals for a friend and never being invited over to her place to always looking after a friend’s child and that friend never looking after yours…), but in each case, I tell my client who often looks defeated, hurt, and bewildered that we have to be very careful whom we spend our time and energy on because there are a lot of “takers” out there.
On that note, I want you to think about all of the supposed “friends” in your life and ask yourself the following question: “Does s/he have as much to give me as I have to give her/him?” If the answer is a resounding “no”, consider if you need to let go of this person or else find someone else to be close to who nourishes you as much as you nourish them.
Do you have a story to share with my readers about overcoming one-way-street relationships? Please send it to me so I can share it in an upcoming e-zine. It can be anonymous…send it to: firstname.lastname@example.org