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Dr. Judith Orloff, a New York Times bestselling author, psychiatrist, and empath, has dedicated her life’s work to helping sensitive individuals understand and embrace their gifts. In her
conversation with Esther, she discussed the emotional world of empaths and highly sensitive people (HSPs), the importance of supporting sensitive children, and the inspiration behind her new children’s book, The Highly Sensitive Rabbit.
The Difference Between an Empath and a Highly Sensitive Person
According to Dr. Orloff, sensitivity exists on a spectrum.
- Highly sensitive people (HSPs) experience deep emotional and sensory awareness. They are easily affected by sounds, sights, smells, and textures, and may feel overwhelmed by noise or crowds. However, their sensitivity also allows them to appreciate beauty, nature, and subtle emotional cues in others.
- Empaths take sensitivity one step further. They not only sense but also absorb the emotions and energies of those around them. While this can bring deep connection and joy, it can also lead to emotional overload if not managed properly.
Dr. Orloff emphasizes that both HSPs and empaths must learn to center themselves and establish healthy boundaries in order to thrive.
Growing Up Sensitive: Dr. Orloff’s Personal Journey
Dr. Orloff’s book The Highly Sensitive Rabbit is inspired by her own childhood. As an only child, she often felt misunderstood for her intuitive nature and vivid dreams. After experiencing a precognitive dream about her grandfather’s death, her parents discouraged her from sharing such experiences, believing they were “too negative.” This response led her to feel isolated and ashamed of her gifts.
Through her healing journey, Dr. Orloff reclaimed her inner child—nicknamed “Aurora,” just like the rabbit in her story—and made a vow to always protect and nurture that part of herself. Her children’s book reflects this message of self-acceptance, emotional safety, and empowerment for sensitive children.
The Traits of Highly Sensitive Children
- Prefer quiet, calm environments over noisy gatherings
- Enjoy solitary or one-on-one activities rather than large group events
- Feel deeply connected to animals and nature
- Are easily overstimulated by loud sounds, bright lights, or strong emotions
- May be labeled as “too sensitive” by adults who misunderstand them
Dr. Orloff encourages parents and educators to recognize that sensitivity is not a weakness—it’s a superpower when nurtured properly. These children need validation, gentle guidance, and the freedom to be themselves.
Teaching Children to Set Boundaries and Center Themselves
In The Highly Sensitive Rabbit, Aurora learns coping tools from compassionate animal friends. One friend teaches her to set boundaries when others hurt her feelings; another reminds her that it’s okay to spend time alone.
Dr. Orloff uses these stories to show children—and their caregivers—that:
- Alone time is essential for recharging. Sensitive children thrive when they can retreat into quiet, creative spaces.
- Setting boundaries helps protect their emotional energy. Learning to say “no” kindly but firmly is a vital life skill.
- Empathic self-care is not selfish; it’s necessary for balance and well-being.
Energy Vampires and Emotional Protection
Dr. Orloff coined the term “energy vampire” to describe people who drain others emotionally—often without realizing it. Even as children, empaths may attract others who seek comfort and release by sharing their problems.
As adults, empaths are especially susceptible to narcissists, mistaking their neediness for vulnerability. Dr. Orloff teaches that true empathy involves discernment, not self-sacrifice. Learning to recognize draining relationships and setting firm boundaries is key to maintaining emotional health.
Supporting Highly Sensitive Children
Dr. Orloff stresses that sensitive children need understanding adults who listen, validate, and respect their limits. If a child wants to observe a gathering from afar rather than participate, that should be accepted—not corrected.
- Provide safe spaces for overstimulated children to decompress (soft lighting, quiet, comforting items)
- Avoid shaming language such as “too sensitive” or “you need a thicker skin”
- Ensure schools and parents address bullying swiftly and seriously, as sensitive children are often targets
One caring adult who “gets” a sensitive child can make an enormous difference in that child’s sense of belonging and self-worth.
Teaching Self-Empathy
Self-empathy, says Dr. Orloff, means treating yourself with the same kindness and compassion you give others. Many sensitive children are self-critical or feel they are “too much.” Adults can help by modelling gentle self-talk and encouraging affirmations like, “I’m learning,” or “I’m a good person doing my best.”
Empaths and HSPs flourish when they replace self-judgment with self-compassion.
Dr. Orloff’s Vision for the Future
Dr. Orloff envisions a world where highly sensitive and empathic people are celebrated, not criticized. She hopes for educational systems that honour their gifts, nurture emotional intelligence, and teach practical tools for managing sensitivity.
She believes that sensitive children are the future stewards of the planet—naturally compassionate, attuned to the environment, and motivated to protect life on Earth. Her goal is to help them grow up strong, balanced, and empowered to make a difference.
Books by Dr. Judith Orloff
- The Highly Sensitive Rabbit
- The Empath’s Survival Guide
- Thriving as an Empath
- The Genius of Empathy
- Second Sight
