As you are probably aware, I am obsessed with death and dying lately. I wrote another article about a book that changed the way I look at death and dying forever which I highly recommend you read. While I have been jokingly accused of becoming somewhat “morbid” in recent months, nothing could be further from the truth. As someone with an anxiety disorder, I learned early on that the best way to overcome fear is to blast right through it. So since my late twenties, when I was officially diagnosed with “generalized anxiety”, I have been facing all of my fears, slowly but surely extinguishing one after another. Thus far, I have overcome many fears including: flying, highway driving, travelling alone, and the colour purple (okay, that one’s a joke but I seriously feel sick to my stomach if I look at that colour for too long).
So the next big fear to conquer on my list was, you guessed it- death and the whole dying process. So I set out to find another book to help me learn more about the dying process, both for the person dying and for their loved ones. I chose one that is required reading for my community’s local hospice volunteers. Let me tell you, this little gem is pure magic. It’s called Final Gifts and was written by Maggie Callanan and Patricia Kelley, two hospice nurses who share their experiences of working with the dying for over 20 years.
The entire book could be read in a couple of days and will leave you feeling enlightened, informed about the death process, and also very peaceful about the whole concept of dying. Let’s face it- we could all use some enlightenment around the whole death thing. I mean, we’re all going to die someday and if we live long enough, we will lose some of our beloveds to death as well. What this book helped me with so much is to gain a new understanding of how the dying person communicates to their loved ones. For example, through the stories of the people who died in this book, I learned that the dying communicate their needs, feelings, and even the timing of their death in very unique but often highly decipherable ways. We just need to learn how to interpret the language they use to do this and really listen to what they tell us. This book shows you exactly how to do just that.
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