Are you a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) living in British Columbia and seeking support? As a Registered Clinical Counsellor (RCC) who specializes in working with HSPs, I understand the unique emotional and sensory experiences that come with high sensitivity. Many HSPs feel overwhelmed in a fast-paced world and struggle with anxiety, burnout, and self-doubt.
I offer therapy services tailored specifically to HSPs in BC, whether you’re located in Victoria, Vancouver, or anywhere else in the province. Through a gentle, client-centered approach, I help sensitive individuals build resilience, improve emotional and nervous system regulation, and thrive as their authentic selves.
If you’re looking for support from a highly experienced HSP therapist in BC, reach out to book a free 15-minute consultation. You don’t have to navigate this journey alone.
What is a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)?
Many HSP clients come to see me with labels like, “depressed” and/or “anxious.” Rarely, have they ever considered themselves as ‘highly sensitive’ which, I believe, is a more positive — as well as accurate — way to describe their personalities.
The term “Highly Sensitive Person” comes from a fabulous book I highly recommend called, The Highly Sensitive Person: How to Thrive When the World Overwhelms You (Broadway Books: New York. 1999) by Elaine N. Aron, Phd.
Another great book on the topic is called Sensitive. I interview one of the authors here.
You can also check out my YouTube channel HSP playlist here.
What are the attributes of Highly Sensitive People?
All of my HSP counselling clients have one thing in common — highly attuned nervous systems which make them ‘highly sensitive.’ I describe this state as “wearing your skin inside out” — we are like cats with big whiskers that reach far out and our ‘antennae’ are always “on.” Aron calls this a “difference in arousability” in that HSPs notice levels of stimulation that go unobserved by others. The pros of being an HSP are that we are often visionaries, highly intuitive artists, or inventors, as well as more conscientious, cautious, and wise people.
The cons of being an HSP means that we are stimulated more intensely by everything around us which can often feel overwhelming. Ms. Aron puts it this way: “What is moderately arousing for most people is highly arousing for HSPs. What is highly arousing for most people causes an HSP to become very frazzled indeed… until they reach a shutdown point” (p. 7).
Many of my HSP clients describe situations in which they feel frazzled and overwhelmed. For example, one woman described working as a teacher all day at an elementary school and coming home feeling frazzled and worn out. She said she just needed a night in with the phone off and curled up with a good book. When she woke up the next morning, she felt that her batteries had been recharged and was ready to face another day. Her non-HSP colleagues found this odd as they recharge their batteries by going out after work with their friends and shooting some pool and listening to loud music. That’s a big difference between HSPs and non-HSP’s — they recharge their batteries in completely different ways — the former by retreating and being quiet and the latter by going out and being in a group with lots of outside stimulation (like loud music).
How do I Know if I Am I a Highly Sensitive Person?
Here is Elaine Aron’s self-test from her book (pp. xxi and xxii) for determining whether you are an HSP. If you answer true to 12 or more of the questions, you’re probably highly sensitive. If this is the case, I highly recommend you read Ms. Aron’s book(s) to learn how to thrive in the world being an HSP.
- I seem to be aware of subtleties in my environment.
- Other people’s moods affect me.
- I tend to be very sensitive to pain.
- I find myself needing to withdraw during busy days, into bed or into a darkened room or any place where I can have some privacy and relief from stimulation.
- I am particularly sensitive to the effects of caffeine.
- I am easily overwhelmed by things like bright lights, strong smells, coarse fabrics, or sirens close by.
- I have rich, complex inner life.
- I am made uncomfortable by loud noises.
- I am deeply moved by the arts or music.
- I am conscientious.
- I startle easily.
- I get rattled when I have a lot to do in a short amount of time.
- When people are uncomfortable in a physical environment I tend to know what needs to be done to make it more comfortable (like changing the lighting or the seating).
- I am annoyed when people try to get me to do too many things at once.
- I try hard to avoid making mistakes or forgetting things.
- I make it a point to avoid violent movies and TV shows.
- I become unpleasantly aroused when a lot is going on around me.
- Being very hungry creates a strong reaction in me, disrupting my concentration or mood.
- Changes in my life shake me up.
- I notice and enjoy delicate or fine scents, tastes, sounds, works of art.
- I make it a high priority to arrange my life to avoid upsetting or overwhelming situations.
- When I must compete or be observed while performing a task, I become so nervous or shaky that I do much worse that I would otherwise.
- When I was a child, my parents or teachers seemed to see me as sensitive or shy.
If you want to do an HSP self-test, you can find it on Elaine Aron’s website here.
If you are a highly sensitive person in British Columbia, and would like to discuss how therapy can help you in being your best self, please contact me.