Don't Go to the Hardware Store for Bread Think this saying comes from AA: A number of years ago I began attending a 12 Step recovery program for people affected by someone else’s addiction. In that program I learned so many new ways of seeing the world and how to live life differently. This new healthy … [Read more...] about How to Find Emotionally-Available People
Unless you are a hobbit hiding in a tree, you, like the rest of us, have a very hard time unplugging from technology in the name of self-care. In a previous article, my aim was to help you choose self-care over more time doom-scrolling. https://www.estherkane.com/being-mindful-with-technology/ Since I wrote … [Read more...] about Taking Control of Technology
I work a lot with addictions in my therapy practise- mostly to food but also other substances like alcohol and other drugs. With all of these addictions, my clients almost always tell me that they want to learn to 'use' (fill in your particular substance-of-choice here) "in moderation someday". Some are … [Read more...] about Are you a Moderator or an Abstainer?
I felt moved to write this piece because many people who contact me to learn more about doing therapy struggle with knowing when they are ready to make major changes in their lives which they are often terrified of doing. This often creates the emotional state of ambivalence- something I have to navigate … [Read more...] about How to Know if You’re Ready for Therapy: Stages of Change
I felt the need to write something about my work with male clients as a lot of people think I just work with women based on my website. But the fact is that while I mostly work with women, I also work with a number of men as well with equally positive outcomes. I have two specializations with male clients: … [Read more...] about Therapy for Gay Men and Men with Eating Disorders
In my practice, one of the most common issues I hear people talk about is addiction; in all its various forms, guises and mutations. I help clients overcome their own personal addictions, and also spend a great amount of time counseling them on how to deal with loved ones who have their own addictions. In my … [Read more...] about What to do when someone you love has an addiction
I am so delighted to share my collaboration with Dr. Vera Tarman, expert in food addiction and author of what I think is the best book on the subject, Food Junkies. I’d like to start this article with this interview my mother, Marion Kane did with Dr. Tarman a while back which is both entertaining and … [Read more...] about Food Addiction with Dr. Vera Tarman
In my therapy practise these days, I tend to be seeing a lot of women with various addictions including alcohol, drugs, food, and unhealthy relationships. As part of their recovery plan, I always go over what resources they plan on using besides one-on-one therapy sessions in order to meet their goal (which … [Read more...] about Esther weighs in on 12 step groups