I am well aware by witnessing the angst all around me, that the winter festivities and get-togethers are in full swing. Between obligatory work parties, friends’ gatherings, and family dinners, some people feel like running off to the woods and holing up in a cabin until the whole thing is over. I’ve spoken … [Read more...] about How to Reframe Family Gatherings as a Chance to Grow
I wrote an article for Mother's Day of 2021, and have tweaked it slightly for this Mother's Day in case you didn't read it last time. I want to dedicate an entire post to my own very special mother- whom I call "mum" because my family is from London, UK, also known in her own right as Marion Kane. But before … [Read more...] about Mother’s Day 2022
Unfortunately, there is an unending need to explore the complicated issue of family cutoffs or what is commonly referred to as 'familial estrangement'. I have addressed this issue in previous posts. Check them out if you haven't done so … [Read more...] about Dealing With Family Cut-Offs
I was working with a male client recently who has a very difficult in-law to contend with. I kept reminding him that her behaviour towards him wasn't personal which he found helpful. He shared an acronym with me he had learned about in a business seminar called QTIP which stands for: QUIT TAKING IT … [Read more...] about QTIP- Quit Taking It Personally
During this long-term COVID-related isolation phase, I’ve had a lot of time to reflect on how to best cope with all of the restrictions we’re currently having to navigate. It seems that all of the things we used to do in order to find joy and satisfaction in our lives are temporarily on hold. Here is a list … [Read more...] about What Can Grandparents Teach Us About Global Crises?
Therapeutic Letter-Writing: Part 2 As promised from last week’s post, The Magic of the Unsent Letter, I am following up with Part 2: The Sweet Release of Writing a Rant Letter. Every time I give this letter-writing homework, I send them the links to two of my blog posts I’ve written on the subject. … [Read more...] about How Can I Deal with my Anger in a Healthy Way?
I’ve decided to write a two-part series on the magic of a form of homework I give to practically ALL of my clients at one or more points on their healing journeys — THE UNSENT LETTER. Every time I give this letter-writing homework, I send them the links to two of my blog posts I’ve written on the subject. The … [Read more...] about Therapeutic Letter-Writing: The Unsent Letter
I am so delighted that one of my client’s offered to write the following piece for you about healing from being cut off from her adult children. I wrote What to do when a family member shuts you out last week. I also answered a reader’s question about what to do when you’ve been cut off by a family member … [Read more...] about A Client’s Journey Through Family Cut-Offs